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Respect yourself and learn to say no

All women fall in love: some of us fall in love once, others might fall in love more than once but we all tend to be blind when t comes to love. Being on cloud 9 feels oh-so-great and we love to love but men tend to take advantage of that.

So be careful, respect yourself and learn to say ‘no’ for you are worth it.

Rule #1 Do not believe everything he says

Men know what to do when you’re feeling down: he’ll call, he’ll send nice messages and he’ll listen to you pour out your heart for hours on end. He might be genuinely concerned but be careful, you can’t tell what his motives are. Even though we love receiving thoughtful messages of love and concern, he might be expecting you to “return the favor”. You don’t owe him anything, not even a nice reply. You are free to decide whether or not to return his kindness.

Rule #2 Be smart on your first date

Men are by no means stupid. They know what to say or do to get you. A nice dinner, a couple of glasses of wine and it’s on. But you don’t have to give in right away. Respect yourself, know your worth and say no. Not having sex on the first date is perfectly okay. He might be genuinely interested in you but the truth is, he might be after a hook-up and all you’ll be left with is pain. Be smart and gently take control of the events.

Rule #3. Don’t do everything he asks of you in bed

Especially if it’s a fresh thing and you’re not sure where things are going. You don’t have to fulfill all his wishes, do not let anyone force you to do anything you find humiliating or unpleasant. Always tell him how you feel, you’re not a toy, do not anyone do with you as they please just because you like them. Do not let him disrespect you.

Rule #4 You’re not his maid

As women, we all like to please a man we love. Making him coffee in the morning, cooking dinner, washing his clothes and cleaning up his mess is okay up until it becomes something you’re expected to do. Doing nice things is not your “job”, you’re not his maid. Never let him take you for granted.

Rule #5 Don’t let him be in charge of your schedule

Yes, life is busy and often times it’s hard to find time for ourselves but having a job, friends and family is not an excuse for him not to see you. If he truly loves you, he’ll make time for you, it doesn’t always have to be you. Don’t always let him tell you when to meet, be brave enough to say no sometimes. People make time for things that are important to them. He’ll find the time to see you if he really wants to, don’t let him be in charge of your schedule.

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