Can you forgive yourself?
Our mistakes are for learning, right? Mistakes also remind us of the fact that there are two sides of the same coin. But these mistakes also pave the road to the right path.
Recently, I started thinking about the times I did something I shouldn’t have. This sounds so silly, doesn’t it? Shouldn’t have… Who is to say whether something needs to happen or not?
I made bad decisions tons of times. I made mistakes. And there’s nothing wrong with that. We all make mistakes and we all have regrets. But the thing is I couldn’t forgive myself for making mistakes. I was angry at myself and the whole world, and everything that reminded me of my past mistakes. I couldn’t live with the fact that it’s totally normal to mess up and having to clean your mess up. Why not? Because I did not love myself enough to forgive. The only thing that can help you forgive is self-love.
Self-love helps you accept the fact that you make bad choices, you screw up and you learn from your mistakes. You must take a deep breath and forgive yourself for those mistakes. There were times I was not proud of the way I handled myself, when I thought it’d be easier to act like somebody else. There were times when I did not open myself to somebody I should have opened up to. Other times, I loved someone who did not deserve my love at all. I lied to myself and I lied to others. I happened to forget about important things and I also gave myself away way too easy. I did all this. But are these mistakes? Did I mess up? Is it really a mistake if I acted according to what I thought was right at the time?
I think a mistake is not what others regard as a mistake or pass judgement on. A mistake is what goes beyond your emotional, physical or moral boundaries and leaves you with consequences to deal with. And you need to be able to forgive yourself. There will always be people who define you by your mistakes and can’t see beyond them; people who will hurt you, take advantage of you emotionally, financially or physically. All of us find ourselves in situations like these. You are going to make really bad decisions, as well as mistakes. So what then? Just remember to forgive yourself. It might be a thousand times easier to forgive others for their mistakes or shortcomings, but if you can’t love yourself enough to forgive your own mistakes, you’ll end up reliving these mistakes and it will leave you very unhappy.
“The treasures of the heart and mind is this:
love enough to forgive” Mihai Codreanu
Remember, you are your own beginning and end when it comes to self-care. You need to be able to accept your mistakes and forgive yourself.
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