Lie to me
Simple things can get very complicated if people start lying to each other. Relationships are meant to be simple but lies can unleash demons we never knew existed. Lies might not seem that harmful in the beginning, but the truth is lies have the power to destroy lives.
Lies are basically things we try to deny. Lying to another person is denying their right to know the truth. Lies make you want to hide, manipulate and violate the trust you have built with someone.
It’s basically you keeping the other person from making a decision - a decision to accept you and want you the way you are. But, of course, allowing someone to make this decision is a risky thing. They might not want us so we’d rather deceive them and make them stay. Risking that they might leave is hard and so is respecting someone enough to let them make their decision once they learn the truth.
So we’d rather live in denial and we’d rather keep quiet and withhold the truth. But withholding the truth is lying. It’s a crazy game and you can literally make you go mad. Lying to someone conveys the message that they are stupid for thinking things don’t make sense. Feeling like you’re being lied to can cause a serious identity crisis in a person for it makes them deny their instincts. And believe me, people can sense if someone’s lying to them.
And that’s when things get complicated. When lies are being told, it is impossible to grow and go deeper. It’s like showing a false image of yourself but people can’t relate to an image. A false image might seem appealing at first, but there’s no way you can get to know a person who’s trying to hide. Lying to a person means you’re afraid they might reject you when you’ve worked so hard to keep them around. But the sad truth is you can never keep someone you’re hiding from.
So that’s how things get complicated. They could be simple, real simple… but that requires us to tell the truth.
Violating someone’s trust is never the answer. Just be brave and take responsibility of your own actions, don’t try to hide who you really are. How could someone love you if you’re hiding yourself? Is that what you want? A person who loves you for who they think you are? I don’t think do. We all want to be loved for who we really are. Let them see and let them make their decisions. Lies are dangerous, they destroy lives and no one deserves that.
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