A woman over 3o

A woman over 3o might hold back a little - her confidence is shaken since she’s been through a lot of heartache and bad experiences as too many muddy feet have trodden on her heart. She hoped for more but got so little. Fairy tales don’t exist in real life. In real life, a woman in her thirties tries to be more intentional but might not realize she’s closing herself down emotionally in the process. Sounds familiar?

We are afraid of another heartbreak so we find it hard to open up to a man and we’re slowly becoming ice queens instead. Self-acceptance is more difficult than ever: our self-esteem, our pride, our dignity is not what we’re thinking about on a lonely Saturday night. We achieve great things at work and soon realize that time flies as we focus on our job.

Getting our hearts broken takes up too much of our times anyways… Even therapeutic one-night stands are hard to fit into a busy schedule… And then one day you’re called a thruster and all the men around you have an opinion on how you live your life. They definitely enjoy looking but take a step back as soon as you get a little closer. They scare very easily. And they freeze. They don’t know what to do. They say you’re too strong for them. If only they stayed long enough to see that mask go… If we had the time to let our guard down, they could see that we’re only human. But those who leave too soon will never see that. They’ll never see the woman worthy of love and affection and is worth fighting for. A woman who knows what she wants scares most man away - they admire her intelligence and spirit of excellence but she’s not an ideal woman. Why? Because men do not like being second to a woman.

Nowadays people do not have the time nor the patience to get deeper - getting to know a person takes too much time and if the surface seems scary or intimidating, they give up. But that’s exactly what commitment is: not giving up. When you turn 3o, you get tired of doing it over and over again. You know it all too well, you’re not that high schooler going to prom wearing your wrist corsage. Your time is valuable and you won’t live forever so choosing not to waste your time is understandable: we all try to make the most out of the time we’re given. We go to the club to find someone, anyone to let some steam off with, take them home and get rid of them as soon as possible in the morning. Junk sex it is then. At least you don’t have to add them as friends on Facebook...

And then, the morning after, hearing a baby cry next door as we sit on the bathroom floor makes our heart melt - a baby would be great, wouldn’t it? But then you remember you’re a survivor, you don’t need a man. Yeah, you can do anything on your own. Life is a constant struggle as we try to juggle traditional roles with those of a strong, successful woman. But the truth is all strong women have a soft side in need of emotional support.

Men love to fight for a woman but they also need a non-arrogant kind of strong-mindedness. Men are mesmerized by beauty but they find natural, unique, kind and empathetic girls irresistible.

So what’s your best asset? It’ll always be your confidence. Do not worry about your wrinkles or your imperfect body and stop telling yourself you’re too old to be attractive. As you learn to accept, love and respect yourself, men will start to notice you. Regardless of your age, confidence is always the sexiest thing you can wear. Women who are considered the sexiest have this one thing in common: they are confident in who they are. And that is the most beautiful thing ever. No designer shoe can help you if you don’t know how to wear stilettos. All you need is a natural, sexy vibe that comes from within you. No one will notice a girl with a hunched back and no self-confidence so hold your head up high.

If you can’t love or appreciate who you are, do not hope for much. A woman like that will never release pheromones to attract the right man. A woman who does not know how to love and treat herself will not spend hours trying to choose the right scent for her, nor will she buy sexy lingerie or makeup to make herself look and feel beautiful just because she thinks she deserves it. She’ll be nothing but a grey, sad-looking girl walking around unnoticed. Men find an aesthetically pleasing girl with a genuine smile irresistible - smelling good helps too. Treat yourself and never underestimate the power of a new cut or color, flirt using your body language, show him you’re interested and awaken his need for hunting and pursuit. And remember, men must pursue so encourage him and let him gain your affection.

“Beauty begins the moment you decide to be yourself”, said Coco Chanel. So true. No skin care routine will make up for that. Your beauty and your power does not just happen to you - you must actively be working on achieving them. Think positive thoughts, love yourself and smile as much as you possibly can.

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