Single. I hate this word. Maybe it’s just me but it makes me think of someone who has to do it all single-handedly and it makes it sound so difficult...

I don’t want an Instagram feed full of romantic photos of us, I don’t want Facebook to show I’m not single any more. I’m after the real thing and that’s not it.

Let me start with a disclaimer: I am not a relationship expert, I have no knowledge of a "secret formula" to a happy relationship; but since we talk so much about the shortcomings of a partner, I thought it's worth having a look at what we're doing wrong. I'm not saying you'll find Prince Charming right away but it might be helpful to consider some of the things we do, even on a subconscious level, not to find The One.