Love yourself enough to get rid of toxic people
I used to let many people come in to my life without knocking, and I gathered people without sorting them out. Today I am a conscious philanthropist, and I select who I let through that door.
Instead of piling up all kinds of colorful, attractive but harmful to my body, to my being, toxic human contacts. From a single glance and conversation, I filter out the junk, the interesting person, the fake friend, the faceless adventurer, the energy vampire, and the talented heart thief.
I realized that I'm responsible for myself and my mental and physical health. Only after this can I turn to others. Every human relationship is my choice, not my last opportunity. So it is not selfish to miss out and leave behind those situations in life that are poisoning and overwhelming. It is my own life that I must responsibly reorganize, nurture and weed out. Yes, some people have to be weeded out—no need to explain. Anyone who comes to acceptance with themselves knows some people can no longer pretend to be for our benefit. So we must leave them behind without looking back over our shoulders.
But often, we spend our time on the energy-sapping relationships that get most of our attention and the wing-flapping loves that shed most of our tears. Somehow it has become fashionable today to be selfless. We are available day and night. We complete tasks we carry out because we fear losing status, space, for security. We don't speak up, We are scared to ask to be treated worthily, so we put up with being cheated, mocked, disregarded, ignored, taken for air, used, emotionally manipulated, and dependent. How long must we endure? Why do we allow ourselves to be tortured by howling psychosomatic symptoms and eventually let the body become sick after the soul? Why do we not stand up for ourselves? Why do we not leave the energy vampires behind and seek the company of blood donors and blood transfusers? They don't pass on negative thoughts and emotions. They don't give away negative thoughts and feelings. They don't denigrate and steal hope, security, opportunity, confidence, joy, success, and happiness.
If we have already recognized this toxic person, why do we care about their souls? Why not instead with how to save ourselves? In the case of a toxic person, you have the right not to answer the phone, not respond to their messages and not pay their bills. You have the right to keep your privacy, the right to turn your back on him, to distance yourself, to avoid him, to say no. You have the right to stay out of his life and to keep out of his way in self-defense, even if it is a family member, husband, relationship. Yes, it is difficult because toxic people know perfectly well how to make you feel guilty.
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