Jealous people are trapped in this cruel, heart-wrenching, innate feeling: jealousy. It’s not their fault. We all know how it feels, it’s like a latent virus that has the power to destroy our soul’s immune system. Jealousy comes natural to us, it’s hiding inside of us ready to burst out.

Jealousy is a sickness to love, still they are inseparable. Jealousy is there trying to sucks all the life and energy out of a relationship, and if it takes over, there’s a disaster coming. Being in a relationship can transform us into a child: a child full of hope, expectations, a child who is ready to accept and is very vulnerable.

Ideally, a relationship brings harmony into our lives, it’s not one-sided and both parties are willing to meet the needs to the other, loving them unconditionally, leaving no void. Saying I am my beloved’s is saying I am committed to our relationship, I am committed to staying together. It does not entail a sense of ownership, it’s rather an unbreakable bond, an eternal alliance. A relationship can only be free of jealousy if there is no love left. Every person who has ever loved knows what it feels like to be consumed by it from time to time.

It’s not only people with low self-esteem or low self-confidence that can lose control and let jealousy take over. That perfect harmony is an extremely fragile thing and the green-eyed monster is there to break free making us do nonsensical, unforgivable things.

If you have ever loved anybody, you know how it feels. Jealousy is a perfectly normal human reaction telling us to pay more attention to the relationship and to put more energy, effort and love into it. Irrational jealousy, however, creeps into all areas of our lives and destroys our relationships.

Jealousy is a quiet thief, ready to rob us. It reminds us of our young selves when, as young children, we were so afraid of being left alone. All human relationships mirror the bond of a mother and her child: if you felt insecure, you cried out for help but no one answered or you had to beg for attention, these feelings will surely re-surface in a romantic relationship. You might feel jealous in a healthy, committed relationship from time to time but a strong bond and security can chase it away. When I feel secure and my partner is enough for me, I do not need any affirmation from anybody else to help boost my self-esteem.

We all feel jealous to a certain extent. As love unfolds, jealousy will inevitably creep in but do not let it destroy your relationship. Do not let it take over and make you this insane person who cries all the time and does these crazy things. Don’t let it make you a spying little monster.

If you genuinely love someone, you must trust that as you made a decision to commit to your partner, they did the same.

The best remedy is being committed to keeping things exciting and interesting – but you must work for it.

You can prevent jealousy by striving to maintain a positive attitude and a healthy level of self-confidence.

Self-confidence is one of the sexiest things ever – try to improve your self-esteem and make sure you know you are worthy of love, you’re attractive and exciting.

Instead of giving him the silent treatment, make sure to prevent toxic thoughts and if you need answers, stay calm, be honest and ask him. You don’t need to torture yourself as you lie awake at night, trying to come up with the answers yourself. You don’t need to think about ways he cheated on you just because you’re suspicious. There’s no need to destroy your relationship with horror stories that happened to somebody else. Ask him why he feels so distant or emotionally unavailable. Ask him why he didn’t get back to you or whether there’s something you need to worry about. Ask him if you want real answers.

Jealousy is a silent, deceitful relationship-killer. The only way out is trusting yourself and the person you’re committed to. Don’t even entertain the idea; don’t let jealousy take over and destroy your relationship.

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