The reason you’re attracting toxic men
Some women attract bad boys like it’s their job. Emotionally unavailable, depressed, unfaithful… you name it. Do you feel like men keep breaking your heart and you’re tired of them? You don’t even know why but you always end up with the same problems; and you feel like you’re never going to meet a nice guy? Is there a reason for trying to find happiness with the wrong guy?
If you find yourself despairingly eating your favorite ice-cream out of the carton asking “why does this always happen to me?” after another promising relationship had failed, one of these might be true for you:
1. You lack self-confidence
If you don’t love yourself, don’t expect men to do it for you. They have a special sensor for low self-esteem and you can easily become a victim if you don’t have what it takes to walk away when someone or something is beneath you. Toxic men avoid women who know their worth because they know they could never meet their high standards.
2. You’re too nice
And they take advantage of that. They don’t expect you to take revenge or complain. They tend to take your kindness, empathy and politeness for granted; so they keep acting like jerks.
3. You’re too sympathetic
People say that opposites attract; but in this case, it complicates things even more.
A toxic man couldn’t find a better prey than a sympathetic girl – he knows you’ll stand there listening to all his problems and you’ll come running when he needs you. He might even lie to gain your sympathy and avoid a break up, but you will pay a high price for staying.
4. You want to save him
Do you have these romantic ideas that true love can move mountains and can change everything and everyone? Do you think your love can change him or be a positive influence on him? You need to sober up, it’s never gonna happen! People very rarely change and it’s not your job to heal his soul – leave it to the professionals.
5. You’re lovelorn
You’ve been heartbroken one too many times and it was really hard to move on; but you’re ready to be disappointed once again. Toxic people can sense that and they have special powers over people who struggle to find love; and you end up falling for them if they seem even a bit nicer than the previous guy you dated.
6. You don’t have boundaries
You avoid setting boundaries because you’re afraid of conflicts; and your lack of self-esteem leaves you week. But even if you’ve never felt love like this before, you must be able to walk away if you feel humiliated.
7. He thinks he can change for you
Toxic men might try to hold on to nice girls and might truly believe for a second that they can change. They look at you as the woman who inspires them to be a better version of themselves, but do not be fooled; it won’t last long, as bad habits are not easy to break.
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